Imposter syndrome in motherhood


Imposter syndrome is the experience of feeling like a phony—you feel as though at any moment you are going to be found out as a fraud—like you don’t belong where you are, and you only got there through dumb luck. It can affect anyone no matter their social status, work background, skill level, or degree of expertise.

How can imposter syndrome effect you as a mum?

It can show up in you not believing you are doing a good enough job as a parent, it can throw up emotions such as the dreaded mum guilt.

Do you find yourself comparing yourself to other mums and constantly feeling like your not living up to them.

1- The first step to overcoming imposter syndrome is to identify what triggers you?

  • Is it a certain mum?
  • Is it accounts on social media
  • Is it a celebrity.

Once you have identified what triggers you to feel these emotions you can start to control.

If it’s a certain account you can either remove them or at least limit when you view their content. Instead fill you social media feeds with accounts that fill you with positivity and inspire you .

2- Make your inner critic into a character.

Notice that voice in your head that tells you your not good enough? Try giving her a name or creating a funny character for her. This will change the relationship and take away the fear, every time she pops up you can literally tell her to go away. Once you’ve removed the fear it wont have such a hold on you.

3- Switch your thoughts. You are in control of your thoughts, When ever a thought pops into your heard use this NLP technique to stop the thought pattern. Tell your self ‘delete delete delete’ then automatically think a positive thought like ‘I’m the best mum for my children’. The more you do this your brain will start to form a new pattern of positive thinking.

4- Work on your mindset daily. By spending time every day working on your mindset you can start to change your beliefs. If you focus on using positive affirmations around how great a mother you are and how you are doing the best job you can. I will link to a full list of my favourite affirmations here.

5- Remember that what we see on the outside is not always the reality.  We can look at another persons life and think that they have a perfect life and always have everything together, When in reality it could be completely different. So stop comparing your self to other mums and start to focus on your own uniqueness and what you are great at, and just think there is probably another mum looking at your thinking you’ve got it all together.

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